Our men's group at church is going through the book Resolution. Last night we talked about the 10 things that distance ourselves from our kids and three things that draw us closer to them. I found these two lists to be a great evaluation tool for me as a dad.
Use this as a checklist to evaluate how you are doing raising your kids. Are you parenting in a way that is drawing your kids closer to you or are you creating distance?
Ten ways fathers distance themselves from their kids
Three ways fathers build a close relationship with their kids
So what if you read this list and realize that you missed the mark in a few areas. Maybe your kids are fully grown now and you think that it's too late to restore your relationship. The sad truth is that there are many children in this world who don't shed a tear at their father's funeral because of the pain they felt from him. Its never too late to make things right. One of the best ways to heal the wound in your relationship is to man up and humbly tell your kids where you went wrong and that you are sorry. Have your kids ever heard those words out of your mouth? I've had to say sorry to my kids a few times, and its never easy. It takes guts, but it brings healing, freedom, and it puts the regrets behind you.
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. ~ Colossians 3:21
Caleb Bislow the author of Dangerous and founder of Unusual Soldiers.