A Wife's Perspective


It’s no secret, my wife, Jess,  is amazing.  Many have asked us how Jess feels about the ministry that I feel called to and I always love hearing the words that come out of her mouth.   Jess recently wrote an email in response to that question for a woman’s Bible study in Tennessee.  Her response blessed me and made me realize that my wife truly is a one in six billion. 

Jessica’s Challenging Note:


Being married to an “unusual soldier” is quite the adventure. Caleb is a man called to dark, dangerous, despised places that most people would like to avoid. Sometimes there are elements of danger or uncertainty to the “missions” he goes out on. Long ago (about 11 years) in college I knew that there was a different beat to his heart and some of that scared me…even to the point of tears. At that point when we were dating I had to completely surrender my fear and Caleb to the Lord. I mean the kind of surrender that you can’t change your mind and take back.

For the first 5 years that we were married he was a youth pastor and there was very little risk involved in the things that we were doing at that point. However when the time came to step out in faith an do things that we knew he was called to do we were prepared to trust the Lord. We have emptied our bank account on several occasions to follow what we felt was God’s leading. Caleb has traveled to countries with no agenda to see if the Lord has something for him to start or be a part of over there. Always God has brought the right translators across his path and people with similar heartbeats to share Christ with unreached people in their own countries. The Lord has never disappointed when we felt he was the one directing our paths. We have seen the Lord bring in more than a year’s salary’s worth of money to take the Gospel into unreached areas of Kenya Africa. I could give you story upon story of things that the Lord has done and ways that he has taken care of us…it is nothing short of amazing to remember how he has worked.

You may be wondering how I feel when Caleb is gone from us overseas…(usually 10 days to three weeks) Well, I can honestly say that the Lord has placed a peace in my heart beyond human understanding about what is going on with Caleb. I know without a shadow of a doubt that he is doing what he’s supposed to be doing. I think that other people worry more about him than I do when he’s gone. Often he doesn’t get to call for days in a row and I just have to trust that the Lord is his keeper and leave Caleb’s safety in his hands. There is a peace in placing our situations in God’s hands instead of holding tightly to our own control.

What I would really love to see is for each of you to begin to have your own stories of what the Lord has done in and through you. It is neat to hear others accounts and know that God can do great things, but there is nothing quite like sharing a story that has happened to you. My challenge to you would be to ask God if there is something he would like you to do, someone he would like you to reach out to, something you should give away, or something you should be a part of and then DO IT. Talk to Diane or your parents and see if they think God would be glorified through it. Then have the courage to do it and just see what God has in store for you. Many times we don’t see God work because we aren’t willing to look silly or do something that isn’t comfortable for us to do. He gets the Glory when we are weak but surrendered and He is the strong one.

God Bless,